Saturday, November 1, 2014

I Wish That I Could Be Like the Cool Moms - Day 25

If you're stuck in preschool land you may not have listened to anything more current than "The Wheels on the Bus" lately, but if you also have teenagers you've probably found yourself humming about wishing you could be like the cool kids courtesy of Echosmith.  Radio stations are giving it lots of play time because everyone remembers that feeling from their school days.....and adults might even secretly admit to themselves that they still feel it....especially Moms.....especially near the days of the Halloween pressure-cooker.

If you have no idea what I'm talking about, here's the lyics of the beginning of the song....

She sees them walking in a straight line, that's not really her style.
And they all got the same heartbeat, but hers is falling behind.
Nothing in this world could ever bring them down.
Yeah, they're invincible, and she's just in the background.
And she says,

"I wish that I could be like the cool kids,
'Cause all the cool kids, they seem to fit in.
I wish that I could be like the cool kids, like the cool kids."

Us grownup mom's like to think we've grown out of that peer pressure thing.... But we know we haven't.  To our chagrin, what other people think, particularly our kids and other mom's, has a lot of sway on our emotions and our evaluation of what kind of mom we are.

Let me talk to you about that while the "Costuming your Kid" thing is still fresh in your memory.

Can I loudly remind you, on this day after Halloween...

Comparison is the thief of joy!

Some Moms thrive on all things craft and DIY....for some it's their hobby.....more about them than about the kids.  Some Moms don't.

Some Moms' favorite thing about Halloween for their kids is having a ready made reason to put on some cute boots, grab a mug of something hot, and take a long walk with your husband and friends behind your costume-clad kids.  It's an undercover date night.

Still other Moms shine most after the trick-or-treating is done and their analytics can come out.  Sorting, counting and comparing the contents of this year's haul with last years can make you a hero to your left-brained child.....ever heard of a Halloween candy Excel spreadsheet?

If you're Spreadsheet Mom, STOP comparing yourself with DIY costume Mom!!!

It's time we took back the definition of cool.  

Cool is the attitude that comes with figuring out who you are and being it with gusto!

God made you a certain way because you're what the world needs... YOU are what YOUR world needs.  Don't rob your people of the custom-made Mom God gave them by comparing yourself to the "Cool Moms."  You are cool, just be it without apology and unabashed.  That is what will bring your kids the most good being you.

Just look over at your kid right now.....surrounded by candy wrappers in their pajamas, licking chocolate off their fingers while you're busy at the computer.....


And their happiness is much simpler than Pineterst makes it out to be.  They're not stressing out about the costume you didn't make....a little free candy, and a Mom who's happy being who she's enough and it's a beautiful thing.

Stop wishing, and just be the cool Mom you already are.

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1 comment:

  1. I had just that thought this morning. "Wish I could be a cool mom like..."
    Great reflection. We are all cool moms with our own unique style. We just need to remember that. Thanks for the reminder!


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